I have doing a lot of thinking on relationships and all of the things people say a good one should contain. Interestingly, these things tend to vary between men and women and the young and old. In thinking about it, I have realized that my expectations have changed. So too, has my appreciation for the little things in love.
April and I have been married for 10 years now and are in a great place. That’s not to say there haven’t been a few ups and downs. There have been. What intrigues me is the fact that, we seem to be stronger now than we were when we started. We are much more secure in our feeling for the other and have found great joy in helping each other through trials.
When I consider the people I know, who have had a “privileged life” and haven’t had to endure hard times, it all makes sense to me. I’ve always thought that there are only three things that make us happy. One of those things is hard work. So, in working through hard times, trials and tribulations successfully, we find ourselves happier and stronger. In the gospel, this is referred to as, “The Refiner’s Fire.” In others words, through intense heat (trials) and the cooling waters ( the guidance of The Spirit of God), like a fine tempered blade, we become strong, indestructible and able to cut through the trials of life that, for most, seem overwhelming.
That being said; is it better then, in the long run, to live a lavish, overindulged life of flighty expectations and unquenchable worldly desires, or one of reverent appreciation for the people in one’s life and the investment of time and hard work into the relationships therewith. It truly is a hard pill to swallow for some of us.
Consider the following: Why is it that when we spend our days in the pursuit of the almighty dollar, and trying to decide what we want to spend it on, in many instances, we are left wanting more, planning our next purchase. Conversely, we spend time with our family members and friends, engaging in good wholesome activities, all the while, learning more about each other, we come away with a very different sensation. Our hearts are filled with appreciation for those whom we have grown to love and a satisfaction that is not easily reproduced any other way.
How will you invest your time? What is important to you now? Will that change as you go through life? When was the last time you evaluated your wants and weighed them against your needs? What if the things that were important to you remained constant? Family, friends…people. Serve the Lord with all you might, mind and strength. Be a good example to those around you. Pray unceasingly for prudence and the strength to carry out that which you know to be right.
Friday, July 16, 2010
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
To New York and Back
I recently visited New York for five days, for our annual Memorial Day campout. Friends that haven’t seen each other for a year or more, come together, catch up on life and reminisce for hours. While there, I was able to see people that I consider to be some of my best friends. Additionally, I got to know some people I attended high school with. We had a fantastic time.
I was able to visit one of my favorite restaurants of all times. It’s called, “Reid’s” and it’s by far the place to go to get unbelievable burgers, fries and milkshakes. Not to mention the fact that it is as cheap as heck. The entire week was filled with good food, camping and friends. It couldn’t have gone any better.
Throughout my time in New York, I couldn’t help but think of my wife and kids…the entire time. Each time we went someplace new, I found myself thinking, “My wife and kids would love this.” It’s amazing how we change as we progress through this life. As I compare and contrast the person I was when I lived in Buffalo, and the person I am today, a lot has changed. Presently, each and every day of my life is spent in the service of my wife and children…and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Once in a while I may stay up late with a neighbor playing video games, or head up to the mountains for a day of fun in the snow, but those times are few and far between. And as I consider everything (past & present) I can genuinely say that I am much happier today, in the service of my family, than I ever was, living for myself. I don’t think that’s a coincidence.
One of the things that I have gleaned from life thus far is that joy and pleasure are quite different, and that there are very few things that bring us true joy and long lasting happiness. For me, it is only three things. They are; God, family, and truly hard work. I’m referring to extremely exhausting, physical & mental exertion. What is intriguing to me is how these three things seem to be inseparable. Consider the following.
God tells us to, “Love the Lord thy God with all thy might…” We are also told to love thy neighbor as thyself. Throughout the scriptures, we read that the word “love” is considered an action word. So, to “love someone in an active manner can only mean one thing. We are to love others by way of service. Service, for the most part, is a truly exhausting thing, that is rarely convenient in its timing and, at all times requires sacrifice of one kind or another. Thus, to help others is a sign of our dedication to the Lord and his teachings. And so, I find that, the harder I work at something and strive towards completion of whatever it is, the happier I become. There is definitely a direct correlation between the two.
I had such a great time there in New York and consider myself truly blessed to have such great friends who love unconditionally. I am so grateful that they have the desire to keep in touch as I do. I look forward to next year, when we can get together once again and exchange stories of the years past.
I was able to visit one of my favorite restaurants of all times. It’s called, “Reid’s” and it’s by far the place to go to get unbelievable burgers, fries and milkshakes. Not to mention the fact that it is as cheap as heck. The entire week was filled with good food, camping and friends. It couldn’t have gone any better.
Throughout my time in New York, I couldn’t help but think of my wife and kids…the entire time. Each time we went someplace new, I found myself thinking, “My wife and kids would love this.” It’s amazing how we change as we progress through this life. As I compare and contrast the person I was when I lived in Buffalo, and the person I am today, a lot has changed. Presently, each and every day of my life is spent in the service of my wife and children…and I wouldn’t have it any other way. Once in a while I may stay up late with a neighbor playing video games, or head up to the mountains for a day of fun in the snow, but those times are few and far between. And as I consider everything (past & present) I can genuinely say that I am much happier today, in the service of my family, than I ever was, living for myself. I don’t think that’s a coincidence.
One of the things that I have gleaned from life thus far is that joy and pleasure are quite different, and that there are very few things that bring us true joy and long lasting happiness. For me, it is only three things. They are; God, family, and truly hard work. I’m referring to extremely exhausting, physical & mental exertion. What is intriguing to me is how these three things seem to be inseparable. Consider the following.
God tells us to, “Love the Lord thy God with all thy might…” We are also told to love thy neighbor as thyself. Throughout the scriptures, we read that the word “love” is considered an action word. So, to “love someone in an active manner can only mean one thing. We are to love others by way of service. Service, for the most part, is a truly exhausting thing, that is rarely convenient in its timing and, at all times requires sacrifice of one kind or another. Thus, to help others is a sign of our dedication to the Lord and his teachings. And so, I find that, the harder I work at something and strive towards completion of whatever it is, the happier I become. There is definitely a direct correlation between the two.
I had such a great time there in New York and consider myself truly blessed to have such great friends who love unconditionally. I am so grateful that they have the desire to keep in touch as I do. I look forward to next year, when we can get together once again and exchange stories of the years past.
Thursday, March 18, 2010
A Week Without My Wife
For the past week, I have been trying not to burn the house down while my wife was away. See, April (my wife)and her friends from England, all got together at one of their homes in Florida. She spent six wonderful days there while I was home with the children, attempting what I thought was a the impossible.
I chose this as the topic for a blog entry because I feel it sheds light on the importance of wives/moms in our lives.
I knew right off the bat that this was going to be hard. I knew this because I have received countless phone calls from April in the past relaying her frustration with the days tasks and the monotony and exhaustion therein. So, to avoid a great deal of heartache (i.e. house cleaning), I did an initial cleaning of the house, packed the kids up and drove down to my brother’s house in Colorado Springs, where we would stay for four of the six days, patiently awaiting the return of “sanity” (April). The time we spent in the springs was fantastic. We spent time with cousins, aunts and uncles and had an all around grand time shooting guns, riding four wheelers and being in the mountains. The time flew by. The time to return home and prepare for Aprils return quickly approached. We wanted to get home on Sunday, to ensure plenty of time was had to put the finishing touches on the house and spend some time together, just Dad and the kids.
The kids definitely took advantage of the situation, eating whatever they wanted, whenever they wanted too. They got to stay up later than normal and not take showers as often. I was at the point where I had way more tasks and responsibilities than I had time to accomplish them. So, I had to choose the things I considered most important, do those and let the other things fall upon the wayside. That’s where I get confused. I don’t recall April ever talking about this dilemma. I don’t remember a time when she spoke of having to disregard some things to get the more important ones done. What was I doing wrong? How does she do it? To me, it seemed absolutely impossible to do it all. Anyways, one day they’d get to bathe, the next, they’d straighten their room. One day, I made lunch and we had a light snack for dinner. I was a wreck! My insides were screaming for a break! I was able to get through it because there was an end in sight. None of the kids’ homework was done. Their teeth were all but falling out of their heads and dying to be brushed. There was more dirty laundry than I knew we even owned! … But, the dishes were done and the kids had fun I think my priorities were a bit askew!
Which brings me to the point: I’d like to take a moment and commend my lovely wife for all that she does. Throughout the last ten years, she has ALWAYS found a way to ensure everything gets done. There is dinner on the table when I come home. Our children always dress properly and look kept. My home has always felt like home. I know that at the end of the day, when I am spent and have nothing more to give, my sweet wife is still going strong at home, in preparation for my arrival. When we get the kids to bed, she is still folding laundry. She puts the energizer bunny to shame. It is April who initiates family home evening each week. It is she, who gets us out the door to church on time. And it is my wife who gives the credit for all of these things to everyone but herself. I am so grateful for her in my life and can’t envision it without her. Thank you to all the Moms and wives who fight daily to ensure their families are taken care of and presentable. To those who do not these things and want to know what you aren’t doing, take a look at my wonderful wife who gives until it hurts…and ignores her needs to meet ours. Thank you Buddha! We love you.
-joe
I chose this as the topic for a blog entry because I feel it sheds light on the importance of wives/moms in our lives.
I knew right off the bat that this was going to be hard. I knew this because I have received countless phone calls from April in the past relaying her frustration with the days tasks and the monotony and exhaustion therein. So, to avoid a great deal of heartache (i.e. house cleaning), I did an initial cleaning of the house, packed the kids up and drove down to my brother’s house in Colorado Springs, where we would stay for four of the six days, patiently awaiting the return of “sanity” (April). The time we spent in the springs was fantastic. We spent time with cousins, aunts and uncles and had an all around grand time shooting guns, riding four wheelers and being in the mountains. The time flew by. The time to return home and prepare for Aprils return quickly approached. We wanted to get home on Sunday, to ensure plenty of time was had to put the finishing touches on the house and spend some time together, just Dad and the kids.
The kids definitely took advantage of the situation, eating whatever they wanted, whenever they wanted too. They got to stay up later than normal and not take showers as often. I was at the point where I had way more tasks and responsibilities than I had time to accomplish them. So, I had to choose the things I considered most important, do those and let the other things fall upon the wayside. That’s where I get confused. I don’t recall April ever talking about this dilemma. I don’t remember a time when she spoke of having to disregard some things to get the more important ones done. What was I doing wrong? How does she do it? To me, it seemed absolutely impossible to do it all. Anyways, one day they’d get to bathe, the next, they’d straighten their room. One day, I made lunch and we had a light snack for dinner. I was a wreck! My insides were screaming for a break! I was able to get through it because there was an end in sight. None of the kids’ homework was done. Their teeth were all but falling out of their heads and dying to be brushed. There was more dirty laundry than I knew we even owned! … But, the dishes were done and the kids had fun I think my priorities were a bit askew!
Which brings me to the point: I’d like to take a moment and commend my lovely wife for all that she does. Throughout the last ten years, she has ALWAYS found a way to ensure everything gets done. There is dinner on the table when I come home. Our children always dress properly and look kept. My home has always felt like home. I know that at the end of the day, when I am spent and have nothing more to give, my sweet wife is still going strong at home, in preparation for my arrival. When we get the kids to bed, she is still folding laundry. She puts the energizer bunny to shame. It is April who initiates family home evening each week. It is she, who gets us out the door to church on time. And it is my wife who gives the credit for all of these things to everyone but herself. I am so grateful for her in my life and can’t envision it without her. Thank you to all the Moms and wives who fight daily to ensure their families are taken care of and presentable. To those who do not these things and want to know what you aren’t doing, take a look at my wonderful wife who gives until it hurts…and ignores her needs to meet ours. Thank you Buddha! We love you.
-joe
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Im the Luckiest man EVER!!!!!!!
Aside from my wedding, the birth of my children and the day I joined/separated from the military, there aren’t many memories in my life that stand out vividly, as the ones that were made last weekend. I have truly been blessed beyond my wildest dreams and I owe it all to my precious wife and her dedication to our family’s happiness. With that, I will go ahead and jump right into it:
For our 10th wedding anniversary, April and I decided to get a babysitter and head to a local restaurant that was said to be one of the best in northern Colorado (Texas-de-Brazil). We’d decided we were to get dressed up fancy to make it seem more official. The entire day was filled with anticipation for both of us. Aside from the disbelief that ten years had come and gone, we were just excited about spending time together, alone. The time had come. The babysitter arrived. I grabbed my keys and was heading for the door to start the car. I wanted it to be nice and warm for my precious bride. As I reached fro the door, April shouted from the second floor, “Don’t go Out There!” Immediately, I knew something was up but was unsure what it was exactly. So, I stayed inside and waited patiently for my date to come downstairs. There was very little difference in my anticipation and that of a teenager awaiting his prom date at the bottom of the stairs. Finally, she came down and boy-oh-boy was it worth the wait.
We hugged and kissed the kids and left our final instructions with the sitter, and proceeded outside. To my surprise, a black, shiny, stretch limo was parked in front of our home with a sign on taped to the back that read, ”Just Married (10 yrs ago)” . I had no idea that this was coming and couldn’t believe she slipped it past me. What a wonderful surprise. After some fun pictures, we jumped in the limo and headed to the restaurant.
The food at this place was fantastic. Truly, I think it was some of the best I have ever had. We enjoyed wonderful flowing conversation and food. I don’t think I can remember a date in my life going better than this night. Let me tell ya, I had no idea what was in store for me. I asked for the check and as it arrived, the waiter handed us am envelope. Now, for those of you who love reality television, you probably know what the bachelor is. In it, towards the end of a season, as the contestant reaches the final two women, at a dinner for two, a card is read that reads, “Should the two of you choose to forego your individual rooms, please take this key and stay in our fantasy sweet for the night.” Just before opening the card given me by the waiter, I recited that line as a joke, and April cracked up laughing. You guessed it. That’s exactly what the card read. I joined April’s laughter momentarily and, thinking that the “fantasy sweet” was our bedroom back home, I said, “I will take it!!!!!!!”
We jumped in the limo and as we were driving home, April and I talked about all the good times we’ve enjoyed over the past 10 yrs. I really enjoyed her company and loved watching her expressions as she recounted her fond memories. The limo stopped and the door opened. We stepped out to thank the driver and, preoccupied with figuring out how much to tip him, Id neglected to recognize that he had brought us to a local 5 star hotel. My jaw absolutely hit the floor. She’d done it again.
As we walked into the spacious lobby of the hotel, we were greeted by a man, calling us by name and informing us that the water in the rooms was at a comfortable 130 degrees and, should we need assistance, not to hesitate to ring them. I was soo surprised and excited to see what the room looked like. We headed to the top floor of the hotel and walked down the long dimly lit hallway. I opened the door, to reveal rose pedals scattered across the room in a delicate path, begging to be followed. They led us to the bedroom where the word “SHMILY” (See How Much I Love You?!) was formed on the bed with even more rose pedals. Well…we enjoyed a wonderfully romantic evening and slept in that next day. That morning, April and I enjoyed a romantic breakfast by a roaring fireplace as the snow fell in huge flakes just outside our window.
While we were eating, my lovely wife handed me two cards that were labeled ’50 minute couple massage”! Are you kidding me?! When will the heaven end?! I suggest that it will not. WE enjoyed that massage together and were preparing to head to Colorado Springs to pick up our kids that my family so lovingly agreed to watch while April surprised me repeatedly for an entire weekend. As we started for the door, a card was slipped under the door. Gimme a friggin’ BREAK!!!!!!!!!!! Another surprise?! I looked at April who was just tickled with herself at this point and unable to contain her excitement. She told me to open it. I did and was soooo blown out of the water by what was in the envelope. It was two tickets to see a famous comedian Brian Regan! At this point, I was so overwhelmed with appreciation for my wife, I couldn’t see straight. We had such a wonderful time there and throughout the night.
At this point, I’d like to address the obvious here. I am a truly blessed man who, at times, doesn’t feel too deserving. April has been such a blessing in my life. Someone who has lifted me past what I could’ve ever imagined achieving in work, in family and beyond. For that I am grateful and hope to surpass her expectations throughout our lives as she did this last weekend. We shall hafta see what happens. Stay tuned….SHMILY?!
Joe
For our 10th wedding anniversary, April and I decided to get a babysitter and head to a local restaurant that was said to be one of the best in northern Colorado (Texas-de-Brazil). We’d decided we were to get dressed up fancy to make it seem more official. The entire day was filled with anticipation for both of us. Aside from the disbelief that ten years had come and gone, we were just excited about spending time together, alone. The time had come. The babysitter arrived. I grabbed my keys and was heading for the door to start the car. I wanted it to be nice and warm for my precious bride. As I reached fro the door, April shouted from the second floor, “Don’t go Out There!” Immediately, I knew something was up but was unsure what it was exactly. So, I stayed inside and waited patiently for my date to come downstairs. There was very little difference in my anticipation and that of a teenager awaiting his prom date at the bottom of the stairs. Finally, she came down and boy-oh-boy was it worth the wait.
We hugged and kissed the kids and left our final instructions with the sitter, and proceeded outside. To my surprise, a black, shiny, stretch limo was parked in front of our home with a sign on taped to the back that read, ”Just Married (10 yrs ago)” . I had no idea that this was coming and couldn’t believe she slipped it past me. What a wonderful surprise. After some fun pictures, we jumped in the limo and headed to the restaurant.
The food at this place was fantastic. Truly, I think it was some of the best I have ever had. We enjoyed wonderful flowing conversation and food. I don’t think I can remember a date in my life going better than this night. Let me tell ya, I had no idea what was in store for me. I asked for the check and as it arrived, the waiter handed us am envelope. Now, for those of you who love reality television, you probably know what the bachelor is. In it, towards the end of a season, as the contestant reaches the final two women, at a dinner for two, a card is read that reads, “Should the two of you choose to forego your individual rooms, please take this key and stay in our fantasy sweet for the night.” Just before opening the card given me by the waiter, I recited that line as a joke, and April cracked up laughing. You guessed it. That’s exactly what the card read. I joined April’s laughter momentarily and, thinking that the “fantasy sweet” was our bedroom back home, I said, “I will take it!!!!!!!”
We jumped in the limo and as we were driving home, April and I talked about all the good times we’ve enjoyed over the past 10 yrs. I really enjoyed her company and loved watching her expressions as she recounted her fond memories. The limo stopped and the door opened. We stepped out to thank the driver and, preoccupied with figuring out how much to tip him, Id neglected to recognize that he had brought us to a local 5 star hotel. My jaw absolutely hit the floor. She’d done it again.
As we walked into the spacious lobby of the hotel, we were greeted by a man, calling us by name and informing us that the water in the rooms was at a comfortable 130 degrees and, should we need assistance, not to hesitate to ring them. I was soo surprised and excited to see what the room looked like. We headed to the top floor of the hotel and walked down the long dimly lit hallway. I opened the door, to reveal rose pedals scattered across the room in a delicate path, begging to be followed. They led us to the bedroom where the word “SHMILY” (See How Much I Love You?!) was formed on the bed with even more rose pedals. Well…we enjoyed a wonderfully romantic evening and slept in that next day. That morning, April and I enjoyed a romantic breakfast by a roaring fireplace as the snow fell in huge flakes just outside our window.
While we were eating, my lovely wife handed me two cards that were labeled ’50 minute couple massage”! Are you kidding me?! When will the heaven end?! I suggest that it will not. WE enjoyed that massage together and were preparing to head to Colorado Springs to pick up our kids that my family so lovingly agreed to watch while April surprised me repeatedly for an entire weekend. As we started for the door, a card was slipped under the door. Gimme a friggin’ BREAK!!!!!!!!!!! Another surprise?! I looked at April who was just tickled with herself at this point and unable to contain her excitement. She told me to open it. I did and was soooo blown out of the water by what was in the envelope. It was two tickets to see a famous comedian Brian Regan! At this point, I was so overwhelmed with appreciation for my wife, I couldn’t see straight. We had such a wonderful time there and throughout the night.
At this point, I’d like to address the obvious here. I am a truly blessed man who, at times, doesn’t feel too deserving. April has been such a blessing in my life. Someone who has lifted me past what I could’ve ever imagined achieving in work, in family and beyond. For that I am grateful and hope to surpass her expectations throughout our lives as she did this last weekend. We shall hafta see what happens. Stay tuned….SHMILY?!
Joe
Friday, January 29, 2010
How Blessed Are You?!
I have had the opportunity to support the Haiti relief efforts by providing satellite imagery analysis packages, which illustrate the extent of the devastation and identify the hospitals and safe landing zones to be used by those in such terrible distress. During this short period of time, which seems to have dragged on for an eternity, I have gained an acute appreciation for the blessings in my life. Aside from faithfully relying upon God for direction and recognizing his hand in my life and our country, I am eternally grateful for my loving wife and three children.
In the past, my wife and I have had conversations about how our home seems to be shrinking as our children are growing. There are times when it seems like we are right on top of each other. That being said, it’s amazing how a catastrophic event such as the Haiti earthquake can fundamentally change your perspective on even the little things. Since then, I have realized that I am blessed to even have a home and one that is structurally sound, warm and dry. A house that once seemed to small and the cause of short tempered arguments has become a place of peace and refuge from the world. Our children haven’t been arguing as much lately. Granted, there is still one or two instances where one of them pulls the other one’s arm off and beats them with it, but all in all, things are far greater.
Along with my contribution to the relief comes long hours at work and lunches (and often times dinners) at my desk. Interestingly enough, I leave work so much more fulfilled, with an overwhelming sense of accomplishment and empathy for anyone who experiences such devastation disasters such as this.
In closing, take time to focus on the things in your life that regularly go unrecognized as the blessing they truly are. They are the small things that we take for granted that so many outside this wonderful country don’t have. Know that you are blessed beyond the possibility of complete recognition. ….That doesn’t mean you cant try.
Joe
Friday, January 8, 2010
Yesterday was a hard one for the kids. Unfortunately, it was a bit of my fault… I love my little ones with all my heart and enjoy seeing them happy and full of life. For some reason yesterday, I was in a foul mood (according to my lovely wife) and kept biting their heads off at every turn. I don’t know if it was because I was tired or what. Regardless, I am feeling quite convicted this morning because of it. Now here I sit at work, trying to concentrate and cant seem to do so…hmm, wonder why. And to top it all off, little Emma woke up in the middle of the night and wrote me a note that said, “I love you dad even when you get mad”. That just sealed the deal for me. Needless to say, I will be going home and apologizing to my kids tonight.
Be patient with the ones you love. They want nothing more than to make us happy. Let them…
Be patient with the ones you love. They want nothing more than to make us happy. Let them…
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Blessing Abound
I had surgery yesterday on my gums in an effort to revise my gum line. According to my internal dialogue, I had quite the “gummy smile”. For quite some time now, it has been affecting my confidence at work and everywhere else in my life for that matter. That being said, I decided to treat myself to a new smile. This was the first step. It was a very surreal experience. I went in earlier that morning for a consultation. I was interested in what the gum specialist was capable of achieving and wanted to know how much it would cost me. As he described the procedure and outcome, I was quite interested in proceeding.
Unfortunately, the cost was set at $1000 which, for me, was just too much money during this time of year. I couldn’t justify spending that much money on myself when there are things my family could use that were far more important to me. Just as I had all but given up the dream for the time being, the good doctor continued by saying, “but, in the spirit of Christmas and considering the fact that I had a huge cancelation this morning that I would otherwise have to eat, I would be willing to do the job for you for $100.” I was instantly overcome with emotion and unable to speak for a moment. After composing myself, I relayed my appreciation and the fact that I considered this a true blessing from God. So, we booked an appointment for the same day and proceeded accordingly.
There is a reason I chose this experience as the topic of my entry today. I am a true believer in the concept of being blessed for doing the Lord’s work. The day before, my family and I committed ourselves to the service of our fellow man in a capacity to sacred for me to elaborate on in this setting. Nevertheless, we donated our time to the service of others with no expectations for reciprocation. In this day in age, we (society as a whole) are so overwhelmed with our own personal responsibilities and “burdens”, we very rarely find time to serve each other. This is an extremely unfortunate truth that few of us are exempt from. Whether work, finances or marital issues, we seem to focus on them and allow them to occupy our every thought. Well, as we continue through the holiday season, our thought should be focused on serving each other.
Serving others is a very interesting thing to me. I have found, as I strive to be of service to my family, friends, co-workers and neighbors, and to free them of their concerns and/or burdens, my problems seem to truly melt away. I have a testimony of the strength of service and the affects it has, not only on the recipients, but on us in the process. It’s a great concept that, if accepted and implemented by all, would solve so many problems and simultaneously. If I help you and those around me, and those around me do the same, the odds are that my problems and concerns will be addressed by someone else.
What a concept this is. I could go about my life, addressing my personal issues and minding my own business and most likely, I would be able to solve many of them. The satisfaction derived from solving my own problems is there but it is minimal at best. Conversely, if I focus on helping others, rather than myself, it gives them hope and brings me great satisfaction know that a friend has one less concern.
Charity, the unconditional love of Christ, is boundless. It is a love that is a verb. It’s an action. For those of us who call ourselves Christians, which is a lifestyle, this concept is inseparable. Give of your time. Give of your substance. Don’t just tell your family and friends that you love them, show them. We have the ability to inspire those around us by merely leading by example. It is the most effective way to affect change. In a time when we are so focused on the negative in our lives, let go, look to your neighbor, and give them something to smile about. Allow virtue and love to garnish your every waking thought and the blessing in your lives will grow exponentially.
“If you were on trial for being a Christian, would there be enough evidence to convict you?”
Merry Christmas.
Unfortunately, the cost was set at $1000 which, for me, was just too much money during this time of year. I couldn’t justify spending that much money on myself when there are things my family could use that were far more important to me. Just as I had all but given up the dream for the time being, the good doctor continued by saying, “but, in the spirit of Christmas and considering the fact that I had a huge cancelation this morning that I would otherwise have to eat, I would be willing to do the job for you for $100.” I was instantly overcome with emotion and unable to speak for a moment. After composing myself, I relayed my appreciation and the fact that I considered this a true blessing from God. So, we booked an appointment for the same day and proceeded accordingly.
There is a reason I chose this experience as the topic of my entry today. I am a true believer in the concept of being blessed for doing the Lord’s work. The day before, my family and I committed ourselves to the service of our fellow man in a capacity to sacred for me to elaborate on in this setting. Nevertheless, we donated our time to the service of others with no expectations for reciprocation. In this day in age, we (society as a whole) are so overwhelmed with our own personal responsibilities and “burdens”, we very rarely find time to serve each other. This is an extremely unfortunate truth that few of us are exempt from. Whether work, finances or marital issues, we seem to focus on them and allow them to occupy our every thought. Well, as we continue through the holiday season, our thought should be focused on serving each other.
Serving others is a very interesting thing to me. I have found, as I strive to be of service to my family, friends, co-workers and neighbors, and to free them of their concerns and/or burdens, my problems seem to truly melt away. I have a testimony of the strength of service and the affects it has, not only on the recipients, but on us in the process. It’s a great concept that, if accepted and implemented by all, would solve so many problems and simultaneously. If I help you and those around me, and those around me do the same, the odds are that my problems and concerns will be addressed by someone else.
What a concept this is. I could go about my life, addressing my personal issues and minding my own business and most likely, I would be able to solve many of them. The satisfaction derived from solving my own problems is there but it is minimal at best. Conversely, if I focus on helping others, rather than myself, it gives them hope and brings me great satisfaction know that a friend has one less concern.
Charity, the unconditional love of Christ, is boundless. It is a love that is a verb. It’s an action. For those of us who call ourselves Christians, which is a lifestyle, this concept is inseparable. Give of your time. Give of your substance. Don’t just tell your family and friends that you love them, show them. We have the ability to inspire those around us by merely leading by example. It is the most effective way to affect change. In a time when we are so focused on the negative in our lives, let go, look to your neighbor, and give them something to smile about. Allow virtue and love to garnish your every waking thought and the blessing in your lives will grow exponentially.
“If you were on trial for being a Christian, would there be enough evidence to convict you?”
Merry Christmas.
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